Stopped Sucking. Now Kicking Ass? Part 2

On July 19, 2012 I declared, my life is balanced and it’s time to mess all that up to live a bigger dream. What the hell was I thinking?

Now 3 months into David Delp’s Kicking Ass Plan for the Year I’m feeling the gravity of my decisions and confronting the ramifications of the rigid rules I set for myself. It’s all laid out here in this video which, while rather long, is dense with revelations, the dirty details, the ingenius methods, and that dangling-over-the-abyss thing.

Have a look.
Let me know what you think.
Thank you.

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When I posted this video, I got some excellent feedback and made a few changes. I shortened it by 30% and added notes to point out some of the attention management tools I’m using in my process. It’s fine if you don’t watch the whole 13-minute video, but please comment on the tools I present.

Here they are:

Stop Sucking and Kick Ass. This is a new tool I’m taking the year to test. This video series reveals the methods of my big experiment. In a nutshell, identify all the roles you will Stop playing, the roles at which you need to Stop Sucking so you can Stop Sweating them, all so you can focus on one role at which you will Kick Ass. I haven’t kicked ass yet, but I’ve cleared the path as well as I can.

Falsifiable Hypotheses. I haven’t written about this tool yet, and I’m still learning how to use it. The notion is simple. Create a short term testable statement that can be proven false. For example, the assertion that “all swans are white” is falsifiable. For me it was, “All my home improvement projects will be finished in two weeks.” Falsifiable, if not the most useful. Like I said, I’m still learning.

Rigid Rules. Somewhat related to falsifiable hypotheses, rigid rules provide explicit moments where your attention can be focused on what you want in your life. I write about The Great Thing about Rigid Rules.

Put Wings on Your Desires. As a way of capturing the scope of a goal, the motivation, and the fast path to making progress, this is one of Pilot Fire’s best tools. You can get it here.

Board of Advisors. Simple enough. Ask or hire a group of people to hold you accountable to your goals. I’m always learning how to work with these honest, smart, and loving colleagues who are helping me.

Let me know in the comments. Are these attention management tools useful to you?

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  1. Love the video! You should post more. I watched the whole thing at work (completely unlike me) but I enjoy your videos a lot. I appreciate your openness, and the way you structure your goals and discussion of challenges (and I agree with you that the girl asking you to ask her out wasn’t “breaking” your rule).

    Just a thought, there have been a few key moments in my life in which I created enough space to have that “oh shit…what do i do with myself now” feeling (I’m in a different place now, but will find my way there again I’m sure). They were all so important, and all the start of something different from what I had originally planned. I’m excited for you to be in that place, and I know great (and unexpected) things will stem from it.

    • Thanks Emily. One of my problems is that I have 1,000 things I know I need to do, and 986 of them I’m just learning to do. So which one to do next is always the big question.

      And thanks for confirming that I didn’t really break the girl asking rule. Whew!

  2. Thanks for sharing this. Struggling with a lot of the same issues. It’s nice to know I’m not alone. Resistance is all over me. Like you, I’ll keep making hard decisions and keep moving forward.

    • Tiny little triumphs. That’s what I aim for. Glad it struck a chord for you. Good luck!

  3. Courageous and brave. I have to be honest and say it also contained a little bit of cringe too. Yay! But I think this one was a little bit less cringie than the previous one. Anyhoo – its great that you’ve shared your thought processes here and it’s also especially great to see you use the tools you’ve built and show them in action. Very cool!

    Ok, don’t hate me for saying this, but I think you must include art in your life in some way. You are such an amazing painter. Please don’t let that go away. I know this is a cliche but it really is entirely true – it is a gift and its really a tragedy if it doesn’t get used and shared. Just my 2 cents on that one.

    Onward! Zippy says, “I am having fun!”

    • Thank you Catherine. It does feel brave, and a little cringie to me too. It’s true I love to paint. I don’t know when I’ll do that again. Thank you so much for that appreciation.

  4. It’s really inspiring to listen to someone who is so genuine about the journey – both successes and challenges. I’ve been following your blog and am really connected to what you’re doing…I’m kind of in the same place of evaluating what really matters (actually I’m a few steps behind) and how to create a plan in my life that maps back to things that will bring me real happiness. While I was watching, I was wondering how much of a network you involve in this process…infusing other people and ideas to help you overcome the hurdles? I find that bringing other resources into the mix helps me get unstuck.

    • Megan, that is such a good point. I have a complex network including my board of advisors (mentioned), friends who are just there for my whatever, readers, and colleagues who are at different places in their own endeavors. Exchanging ideas and help and support is the main reason I do this work.

  5. Fascinating and inspiring as always, and yes, with a bit of cringe factor too at times. I think your openness and transparency are important, though, so I’m glad you don’t censor yourself too much. I’d say you might perhaps want to involve someone else a little in the editing of your videos. They could be a tad shorter and have a more focused structure. I think there were a few points when I might have bailed, had I been a stranger. That said, your bravery and introspection are infectious!

    • Robert, thank you, and yes, I feel like at least I’ve stopped Sucking at video editing. I’m not screaming at my computer because I can’t move an edit point, but I certainly have a lot to learn.

  6. genuine open dialog is top notch. thank you for sharing.

  7. Hey again! You’re totally right about loving a good race, i stayed up way too late watching Obama’s speech Tuesday night…and I’m writing this solely because you kind of dared me to…

  8. Oh, and one other thing. I’ve noticed Chris G. focusing on some “not sucking” lately…synchronicity! 🙂

  9. Wow, David, I had no idea so MUCH was going on with you, and that you had walked away from your income stream. Scary and impressive. You are wise to have so much structure and wise advisors in your life to get through the uncertainty. I am glad I broke my usually strict “no video during work hours” policy to watch this… It’s nice to catch-up, albeit in a one-sided fashion.

    • Thanks a lot David. “No video during work hours” is one of those rigid rules. I’m glad I gave you the occasion to break it! 😉

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