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Yay, I Failed!
Many people have trouble with the word failure because they link the act of failure to the person: I failed; therefore, I'm a failure. I'd like us to re-appropriate the term. Try this one on:
Failure is finding out what doesn't work.
It's our job to try something hard, maybe fail, reflect, try something else. What you don't want to do is never fail. If you never fail, you aren't doing anything difficult or interesting. "Yay, I failed!" stands in for the celebration "Yay, I tried something hard!"
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