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On Owning the Role of Artist: How Labels and Comparisons Strengthen Creativity

Denise Urena over at Nurturing Creativity offers grounded insight into creativity and artistry and an active community of readers and commenters. When she wrote about how labels can weaken our … more

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When Does Empathy Really Open Doors and Minds?

A woman cries. The caption reads, "Dad's bone scan came back." My eyes well up, and my face contorts like hers. I feel her anguish even though this photograph and caption are all I know about … more

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As Victim, as Offender, It’s Our Job to Change the Story

I wrote this article in direct response to your candid answers. Thank you. In my last tirade I yelled at the namby-pamby Advice Flingers-Around who praise the purity of "finding your purpose." … more

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Find Your Purpose? I Say, F#@k Your Purpose.

Find your purpose! Follow your passion! Really? Fuck you! I'm sick of reading, hearing, and seeing that advice. It's not helpful. In fact it hurts. I have too many big important interests that … more

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Name the Roles Your Helpers Play and Make Your Requests Specific

"Ask and ye shall receive,"† is often quoted ironically when something bad comes from an off-hand wish. When requests are well crafted, however, you may find the saying quite a handy reminder. As Mick … more

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Before I Die, I Want To…

Look into the unknown future and make a wish. It's one of the best ways I know to build a clear picture of what's really important to you. And having that picture helps you focus on the present. Every … more

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I Know a Gunslinger, and You Can, Too.

Every time I talk to a new student about roles, I get all wound up and giddy about the richness of the world we get to inhabit. Humans are each so complex and deep. I'm not kidding. And yet I feel … more

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Lance Armstrong: Why I Cheated

  "Good ... [clears throat] Good morning. I'll get right to the point. "Yes, I cheated. "Yes, I lied about it. "I lied because you wouldn't like me if you knew I was cheating, and you … more

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Meet this Heroine of Reinvention

"I was Nobody. When I was anorexic I did not know who I was. I had no identity. I was 10 years old, still, when I was in my mid-20's. I was a baby inside. Just a year ago I was a tiny mouse. I didn't … more

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Get a Little Hard Core on Your Relationships

(Yes, the title soft pedals a gnarly approach to a big subject.) Your environments are major contributors to your energy, your happiness, and your ability to focus, and the people in them are … more