Tools, Fuel, & Steering Instructions
to Make a Life You Believe In
It may sound odd, but one of the most successful things I’ve ever done is get divorced. Actually, getting divorced wasn’t the big success; what I’m proud of is how four people shared a common goal of creating a new kind of family. That went really well. Soon after my daughter was born in 1997,
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I’m going through one of the biggest changes in my life, and I’m kinda scared. I’m losing my home, my wife, my business partner, and the community I built around my beautiful household. I’m not afraid of what will happen next. I’m a little concerned about finding a decent place where my daughter and I
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Folks, this is a call to action. I’d like your help spreading the word of Pilot Fire. If you think I’m on to something, if you think what I offer is valuable, please take a few more minutes to help me spread the fire. The spark starts with you and spreads through the people who trust
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In the category of “Yay, I failed!” I am pursuing some difficult goals this year, and I expect failure along the way. If you are trying something difficult, I offer you the advice I am giving myself. Get help from people you respect (and like). Take small clear steps. Make sure the process is one
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These past few weeks have been extremely stressful for me, but they would have been much worse if I wasn’t surrounded by loving, trustworthy, and well-balanced humans. This article is one part diagnosis, two parts appreciation, and a half part warning. Here’s the bumper sticker conclusion: Balance attracts balance. Diagnosis Last month I got sick
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Cronus knew he was destined to be killed by his son, so as his children were born, he swallowed them up. Apparently this upset their mother, so before he could eat the last one, she switched the soft squishy baby with a rock, which Cronus gobbled up without notice. Too bad for him. That baby,
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It’s coming— the end. By 5pm darkness surrounds us. Out in the world, shoppers whip into pepper-spraying frenzies. As we pass yellow lights of living rooms and kitchens, Vince Gauraldi and Nat King Cole, muffled by closed windows, gently nudge us with the season’s nostalgia. The crinkling of chocolate wrappers becomes an hourly occurrence. The cold sets
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He’s going to die soon— my dad— at least relatively soon, so we’re making a totem pole. He’s 84 years old, past the actuarial predictions for most humans like him, and while he eats well and exercises okay, he also has a knack for close calls. There was the time Dad and my nephew Denny
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There are people who manage to embrace change, play with it, and cherish the surprise it bestows on their lives even when it includes pain and frustration, and to you people I dedicate these notes and pictures. You provide their inspiration. Then there are the rest of us who resist change, clinging to the habits we learned
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